A beautiful sunshine day, not a cloud in the sky. A perfect outing at the beach. Only sound: the waves rolling in the surf to the shore………………………and then, carelessly dropping an exquisite diamond, quickly enveloped and buried in the sand……………………Searching for the rest of your life; never finding your diamond buried in the sand………….Met a for you.
Archive for October, 2013
When you think about it, obsessive thinking can be negative and destructive. What has more value? Worthless thinking or self-worth? Our choice to make. When it comes to controlling? Your thoughts should come to mind.
I have said many times the Twitter experience has been wonderful. I thought it was a silly social network. Have I changed my opinion! Connecting with all ages, all places, all colors, has been a most positive and life affirming experience. Recently read the following quotes on Twitter, and thought I would share. “And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.” Nietzsche…………………..”The two most important days in your life, are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” Mark Twain……”Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. The third is to be kind.” Henry James……………. “Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” Pablo Picasso..”There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Aristotle….Hope the words resonate with you as well.
Friends can’t walk in your shoes, but they can walk by your side.
I often think, when faced with certain life situations, what are the tools that come into play for me. I read many years ago that taking ownership of mind and body is all empowering. If possible, that is my tool. Simply, as I have said many times before, nourishing the body with healthy food, and the mind with positive thoughts…. Surrounding yourself with family and friends you love is the bonus. My husbands favorite saying was “when the going gets rough, the tough get going.” The origin of this phrase has been attributed both to Joseph Kennedy, father of President John F. Kennedy, and football player/coach Knute Rockne. Taken together, “when the situation becomes difficult, the strong will work harder to meet the challenge.” Life is filled with challengers and how we meet and deal with them are the foundation of our emotional tools. Another interpretation might mean that we must be fully engaged in the present, to face what we know and sometimes the unknown. Empowering our own strengths..
Complaining not… just an observation. “Women of a certain age” or women of all ages might relate to this subject. Is being a single woman in New York City, about the worst place to actually find your first, or second or any soul mate? Of course, I am only addressing the women who are interested in finding one. I have met and talked with many, who have either given up due to terrible experiences, or no experiences. Not sure which one is worse. I was one of the lucky ones. I know what is to be loved and in love. Told I had to ” get out there,” I did, and even wrote a blog about the “getting out there” process. Meeting strangers on-line, even though I was skeptical might work, so I gave it more than a passing thought. I went on all of them to no avail. Not even a second date, but kept going on after being reinforced by hearing about one or two successful stories. I also blogged about some of those experiences. Not exactly terrific….A lesson learned though, and a good one for me, is never go on again….and even on a dark rainy night, after a glass and maybe another half of wine, feeling a bit sad and lonely, I would pass the computer and say to myself, don’t you dare. A little behavior modification is good, and I immediately went to the place in my memory, where I put some of the dating experiences …that place allowed me to walk right by the computer to the kitchen, where I made a bag of no oil, no salt, no taste popcorn…the secret is putting some olive oil on the hot popcorn, and that makes it all worthwhile to eat the entire bag. So maybe, not be so selective, and go for nice, instead of the exciting and unrealistic, love at first sight. Leave the chemistry aspect aside. Not sure about that form of settling. Once you’ve had a soul mate, you know the connection There has to be other old soul out there waiting for the right what? Time, place, universe connection? All luck? Right time right place? Which is it? The only thing I’m really sure about? NYC for a single woman can be rough terrain. So what to do? Stop looking, and experience all the glory of the city. The sights, smells, lights, parks, people greeting each other, saying thank you to bus drivers, doormen, all service people. Showing kindness, taking in the beauty of your surroundings, and when you least expect it, the illusive ” he” will come into your life. Sounds good, and asking me if I believe my own words. Well, on a Friday, I might be in some exceptional fantasy mood, and know for sure it will. Ask me a few days later, maybe not so sure..Now we shall just have to see…Pure luck? Fantasy believer? It will happen when it’s right? When it’s meant to be? Oh well, the fun will be in the wait and see. The waiting game is better than the looking part…patience…enjoy your life and all the people in it. The energy of the city and all it has to offer. If the ” he” comes into your life, how wonderful, and if not, well, you have experienced the joy of romantic love and just remember to remember. Remembering is so much better than looking, because it was real. The waiting is real too. Awake and aware and who knows? Lucky? Why not!
Eleanor Roosevelt was asked if she felt old being a great-grandmother. She replied ” no, being a great-grandmother doesn’t make me feel old at all, but the fact that my son is a grandfather, makes me feel very old.” I read this many years ago and hope it is true, because it makes a lot of sense.