Still a dreamer…Old Memories and New Hopes

Cauliflower crust pizza

Mystery. Who immediately ate two slices? I live alone. Delicious🤗

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Late Supper

No ❤️But ❤️Healthy Late Supper😉

Book

Available now on Amazon

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We met at a writing workshop over 40 years ago. I drove in from New Jersey and Barbara lived in NYC. Our routine was to always go out for dinner to discuss the amusing happenings we experienced at the workshop.
I had an idea for a book I was working on. A recently separated woman discovers her sensuality and realizes that the few men she went out with were all different signs of the Zodiac. Very close to the traits of each sign. She decides to go through The Circle of Animals and see if the men she met all matched their signs.
One dinner night with Barbara, I told her my idea and why I was dropping it. The character wasn’t anything like me or what I would do, and I didn’t really admire or like her for the concept. I was creating someone I didn’t want to write about. Amusing, but something I would never embark on. Barbara immediately said “let’s do it together. I’ll take 6 and you take 6 and we can write it together. Sorry for the cliché, but the rest is history.
My husband Barry was very supportive and encouraged me to finish the book with Barbara. He found it difficult to understand why the process was taking so long. “Have Barbara come out to New Jersey for weekends and finish the book.” I read him chapters, and of course there were many sub plots. We had no work schedule and Barbara also had a full-time job. Whatever the reasons, the book was put on hold.
When Nancy Reagan had an astrologer helping her, and Kate had the natural line of creams idea, Barry again would say, “Why not get your book out? It’s so timely.”
……..and still Circle was in the waiting mode.
The week before Barry died, we were in Connecticut and Elizabeth Brundage was there. I knew her the day she was born. She is now a well-known author and her writing is brilliant and wonderful. She told me at a later date that Barry mentioned to her that weekend, about my book and to push me to finish it or something like that. He died a few days later, suddenly and I was in a state of grief and shock. Circle again on the back burner.
Elizabeth wrote a delightful blurb for the book and I will be forever grateful for her generosity with her words.
When I told Barbara about Barry, she was also shocked and asked “what can I do?” I said quickly that Barry wanted us to finish the book.
Many months later after we had worked  out a schedule, a box was at my front door with the first draft and a simple card….. For Barry.
I had moved from New Jersey. Barbara found a great apartment in the same building she lived in. I’m on the 4th floor and she’s on the 10th, so the process of finishing Circle was made easier. A long and sometimes grueling time. There were arguments that were handled with care. Circle for me was a labor of love. I knew Barry wanted it published as much as I did. So we self published and it came out on Amazon last week. So exciting to see it in print. Love the characters and the cover. I hope anyone who reads our words enjoys a fun read.
I would like to give a shout out to Vicki Landis, our Editor and Cover Designer, and Gregg Brickman who did the book formatting. For any writers out there wanting to self publish, I highly recommend both. They were professional and very patient. Thank you both.
Victoria@landisdesignresource.com……gregg@greggebrickman.com

Oh I almost forgot what day it is. Happy Valentines Day to all. Dark Chocolate and love wishes to all!!!

Friendship Garden Thriving

I wonder how many can relate to my experiences. I wrote a post called Friendship Garden many years ago. It was basically about letting go of some toxic plants to make room for new and nourishing flowers. The same way we do physical cleaning, we also need to do emotional housecleaning. When my husband died over 13 years ago, I let go of many people. Not in an aggressive way, because it’s not my style to be confrontational. I like a mellow zen type existence. I do have expectations. I treat others with respect and kindness and like that in return, without judgements. I like to say “I let go of people” rather than “getting rid of.” It sounds softer, but the results are the same. You don’t have to be with negative people, you don’t have to be with people who definitely “don’t get you.” You have choices and the more empowered you are, the more choices you have. Just because you know someone for ten, twenty, thirty, forty, or over fifty years is not the reason they are in your life, or rather, they have to stay in your life. Friends are in your life at different times for different reasons. It’s not a given you have to keep them. I was fortunate that it was my decision to let go.
Something wonderful happened to me. For ever friend I let go of, there were new and nourishing friends that were in my life by choice, not because of the amount of time they were there before. I have a Friendship Garden that is beautiful and colorful and so grateful for every new flower, and for all my forever friends.

“Care about what other people think and  you will always be their prisoners.” Tzo

Too Excited To Be Cool

I wanted to highly recommend Victoria Landis. A joy to work with from start to finish…

mother nature is a man and other observations..

I’m so excited and wanted to share my news. No, I didn’t meet Mr. Wonderful. I once wished on a star, and said if I had a choice of meeting a great guy or seeing my book published…..it would be the book that my co-author Barbara and I finally finished after over 40 years. I will post about that process at another time. It would of course be the book, because that would never be taken from me.
So today the editor/artist sent us the cover. Front and back. Victoria Landis is a writer, editor  and book cover designer. Thank you for your talents.  I’m so excited, I actually showed it to my husbands picture. Hey, I talk to him everyday and do Buddhist prayers to him for almost 14 years, so of course I would show him the finished book, that he wanted to be published from the day…

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I’m so excited and wanted to share my news. No, I didn’t meet Mr. Wonderful. I once wished on a star, and said if I had a choice of meeting a great guy or seeing my book published…..it would be the book that my co-author Barbara and I finally finished after over 40 years. I will post about that process at another time. It would of course be the book, because that would never be taken from me.
So today the editor/artist sent us the cover. Front and back. Victoria Landis is a writer, editor  and book cover designer. Thank you for your talents.  I’m so excited, I actually showed it to my husbands picture. Hey, I talk to him everyday and do Buddhist prayers to him for almost 14 years, so of course I would show him the finished book, that he wanted to be published from the day Barbara and I embarked on this project.
On the back cover is a blurb from Elizabeth Brundage. Her latest book is All Things Cease to Appear. I have known and loved her since she was a baby. What she did was beyond wonderful. Interesting that a week before Barry died, we were together in Connecticut and he asked Elizabeth to help get this book published. We ended up self publishing and soon we will read the proof, and then it will be on Amazon. Kindle and Paperback. Thank you to Elizabeth for her wonderful words that I greatly appreciate.
BTW, I love the cover. Front and Back. Have a fun weekend everyone.

Breathing

I am not a therapist, doctor, nutritionist, or trained to speak on many of the subjects I speak on. To say it all works for me, might be pretentious, and I don’t mean to be……but, it all works for me, and just passing on some common sense and natural remedy’s. I do have some validation, because I have several friends who have therapists and tell me after I give a bit of common sense, that therapists told them the same words. I love when they call me their guru. I’m certainly old enough to be one and wisdom should arrive at the same time older age arrives. I do have a 24/7 therapist, and that’s me. I would never put down therapy for those who benefit by its teachings. It just would never work for me, because I know myself better than anyone and not interested in paying someone to get to know me. I realized so many years ago that I must solve my own problems and control my overly sensitive emotions. A devout romantic, animal lover, and idealist. Realism creeps in, but I do prefer denial in a positive way,and magical thinking. Especially in this political atmosphere we’re all living with. Everything I believe in is in question and I can only deal with these issues by compartmentalized thoughts. It works for me along with very little concentrated sugar and over eating carbs. I realized I do eat for pleasure, but mostly to nourish. We must nourish ourselves…emotionally, physically, and every possible way you can. No matter how many loves surround us, we are alone mostly in our thoughts and our caring for ourselves. The point of this post is to suggest to all reading it that you consider correct breathing one of your most important exercises. Not my opinion, but Dr. Andrew Weil. You can google him for his exercise. It’s so easy to master and should be done several times a day along with Yoga abdominal breathing. Proof of the importance? I knew someone who had serious high blood pressure, She would go to the hospital often because it would peak and cause her problems. I taught her the Weil method and she told me her doctor said it was a miracle. She lowered her pressure by doing the correct breathing a few times a day.
All I’m suggesting is to google the importance of correct breathing, and how it helps all parts of your body.
Ahhhhhhhhhh that’s it. Take a deep breath. Good health to all and Happy Breathing!!!!! Another post, Yoga Laughter is next and that too, works.