I was asked by Stitch to be interviewed for the New York Post. The article is in Sunday. January 25. I said yes and as long as I could use paula paulette. That is the name I write under for URAWarrior and Bershan Shaw. The article was about Stitch , not me and I was very pleased with the way it came out. If you google the article and New York Post, it will come up and you can read. Sadly I haven’t had a date in five years, and actually never went out with a man twice. Perhaps I have and I know I have…..had my one great love forever. I am ok with that. Really I am ok really ok…..but
My grandson was born with a creative edge. He has just started an online journal. Please give it a look and check out their first interview with Kevin Clark about his life as a filmmaker and member of a local Orange County band. The Neighborhood Journal documents the connections, inspirations, and stories of friends in Orange County, California.They highlight the community of young creators, innovative businesses, local eateries, and undiscovered wonders of their neighborhood.
Just wondering what we did before Facebook, Twitter, and Blogging. Many people I know live very nicely without any social networks at all. I certainly did. I only started in my late, very late, 70’s and as I once wrote, thought it was all just silly. Until I tried it. I wouldn’t use silly in any form to describe how my world and purpose has extended beyond the usual. Unless someone is actually on and enjoying all that it offers, it is difficult to explain. This is actually a shout out thank you to everyone who follows my blog, is on Facebook with me, and last but not least Twitter followers. We have made connections that are life affirming and meaningful. Some fun, some serious, and some friends forever. I am fortunate that I have only had one experience that was not pleasant, but that is behind me. When my words inspire in any way, I feel a completeness……even recommending apple cider vinegar jelly. We sometimes overuse the word love, but I think I use in the most sincere way. When I say thank you with love to all who have read my words and comment, it is with gratitude and appreciation. Silly? Hardly!!!!!!!
Many people have asked where to buy Elderberry Tea. I wasn’t able to find in health shops or super markets. I am happy to share another company with integrity and they also have other teas. Buddha Tea. They have a great site. Cheers to good health and a cozy cup of healthy tea.
The strangest feeling is living in a building, a large building with many families, none of which are mine. My building isn’t huge. Maybe over 150 apartments. Most of the time, it feels great. Almost as if I am living at a hotel. New York Times at my door every morning. Mail down stairs. A staff that is wonderful. A gym and magically, even a storage area. I feel very taken care of…any restaurant will deliver food. Elevator service. Some people who actually smile and greet. Behind every door is a story I’m sure. There may very well be very lonely people behind those doors. There may very well be very happy people behind those doors. You really aren’t aware, because you don’t know your neighbors. I’m fortunate that I have many to be with and talk to in the neighborhood. . I also write, so being just me in my apartment is not being lonely. But, there are just too many single women living alone in New York City (read over 700,000), and many don’t like that feeling. When I first became a widow, I really thought living alone was abnormal. No one to talk to in the middle of the night…..unless you count stuffed animals. You see so many singles with dogs and there are reasons for all the dog and cat people. Company.. I had dogs all my life and never could I go through the losing process again. My canine grandson Lucky gives me a doggy fix when needed. My brother is a psychiatrist for over 50 years, but I talk more with family and friends when I need a people fix. My therapy is self because it has always worked for me. I never judge what someone else needs, but with me…..I have a therapist on call 24/7. Just reinforcing all that I am grateful for, and not concentrating on the huge voids. Compartmentalizing has always worked wonders for me. I never let the overflow from sadness seep out to take away the gratefulness. I do wish I laughed more…so instead of watching news constantly, the answer for me …. late night comedians. We all have to find what works, positive tools of course.
I do wonder if there is someone behind those closed doors who might need someone to talk to. We New Yorker’s are known for being very private…..but I do wonder who could use a human interaction. I wonder?
I am grateful ……… but actually I am just another single New York woman behind a closed-door.
I have no advertisers on my blog, nor do I just recommend products randomly. I do like to share occasionally food and tips that are healthy, and have worked for me. Not everyone tolerates vinegar so you have to know your body. I was in Vermont last year and came across a wonderful company that makes Vermont Cider Jelly. I always used sugar-free jams and jellies, all natural…..but have never had such a wonderful jelly as this. The ingredients are Fresh Vermont Apple Cider and that is all. Unfortunately I can’t find anyplace that sells in New York because the company keeps their recipe to themselves. Cold Hollow Cider Mill is the company and they are lovely to deal with. They have no clue that I’m even blogging about them. They call it a “magical cider product.”….The health benefits are wonderful if you Google apple cider vinegar. Cheers to Good Health! I respect companies and products with integrity and this has it all. Delicious too.
I had one of those sleepless nights, and started to think, not the best way to fall asleep, and realized the friends in my life that I treasure and cherish all have the same traits. Not such a surprise. If you know yourself very well, you make good choices about who you let in. So what are the words that really turn me off…..arrogance, insincerity, shallow, entitlement, hate, negative, mean-spirited. …………………..and the opposite? Kindness, Humility, Caring, Genuine, Integrity, Loving, Honest, and both lists could go on. The point being, you need to do a reality check. Do you really look forward to seeing “them”?. Are there some laughs when together or just complaints? Too many people have way too many people cluttering up their inner peace space. If you really work on yourself to achieve a mellow life, do a little inventory check and see who and what can be let go of………….. A good friend is a friend at your convenience, not just theirs…and true friendships are everlasting. Treat your friends as you wish to be treated.
I would like to share……. what I would like to label wisdom. It would be a wasted life, if after 70, wisdom hasn’t come to stay, not just visit occasionally. As a child, I had a strong sense of intuitiveness, and made good choices when it came to friends. Of course over the years, there were mistakes, but they turned out to be master learning lessons, also called experiences. I have written so much about friendship because of its importance and meaning
to me. I consider my family friends and my friends family. I have always protected myself, well, most of the time, and tried not to allow my heart to lead without the important part of the team, the brain. Heart and mind must work together to make the right decisions. When I went with only my heart re friends or more, a mistake was waiting to happen. I realized a long time ago that I can’t be someone’s therapist……especially since I am not trained to be a therapist. Common sense does work and in my About page on this blog you can see that I have had over 50 years experience concerning women’s issues. You can’t make broken people whole, and you can’t carry their baggage . You realize you are not being heartless when you are not able to give people what they can’t give themselves. I have always preferred people who are kind and trustworthy without them telling you how kind and trustworthy they are. Just be, it’s that simple. I am forever grateful to have family and friends who “get me” and I “get them” The more you self-love, the more you allow only those who deserve to be in your life….. a treasured place for both. Positive friendships nourish each other. Even on Twitter, you have loyal followers who stay and we seem to have the same passions and kindness without telling each other constantly. We were on the same path to meet, no matter how far, how young, how different. We are not so different. Over ten years ago, I literally ran away from New Jersey, after my husbands sudden death, I did emotional housecleaning, and left behind many” friends” who were judging my grief. Emotional cleansing can continue as long as necessary. One of my favorite quotes about friendship….
“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.” Lucius Annaeus Seneca
For everyone who reads this blog, I wish you cherished friendships that last a lifetime.