mother nature is a man and other observations..

Older singles are getting frisky on ‘Tinder for seniors’ by Jennifer Wright

I was asked by Stitch  to be interviewed for the New York Post. The article is in Sunday. January 25.  I said yes and as long as I could use paula paulette. That is the name I write under for URAWarrior and Bershan Shaw. The article was about Stitch , not me and I was very pleased with the way it came out. If you google the article and New York Post, it will come up and you can read. Sadly I haven’t had a date in five years, and actually never went out with a man twice. Perhaps I have and I know I have…..had my one great love forever.  I am ok with that. Really I am ok really ok…..but

A World Opened

Just wondering what we did before Facebook, Twitter, and Blogging. Many people I know live very nicely without any social networks at all. I certainly did. I only started in my late, very late, 70’s and as I once wrote, thought it was all just silly. Until I tried it. I wouldn’t use silly in any form to describe how my world and purpose has extended beyond the usual. Unless someone is actually on and enjoying all that it offers, it is difficult to explain. This is actually a shout out thank you to everyone who follows my blog, is on Facebook with me, and last but not least Twitter followers. We have made connections that are life affirming and meaningful. Some fun, some serious, and some friends forever. I am fortunate that I have only had one experience that was not pleasant, but that is behind me. When my words inspire in any way, I feel a completeness……even recommending apple cider vinegar jelly. We sometimes overuse the word love, but I think I use in the most sincere way. When I say thank you with love to all who have read my words and comment, it is with gratitude and appreciation.        Silly? Hardly!!!!!!!

Reality Check…..every now and then….

I had one of those sleepless nights, and started to think, not the best way to fall asleep, and realized the friends in my life that I treasure and cherish all have the same traits. Not such a surprise. If you know yourself very well, you make good choices about who you let in. So what are the words that really turn me off…..arrogance, insincerity, shallow, entitlement, hate, negative, mean-spirited. …………………..and the opposite? Kindness, Humility, Caring, Genuine, Integrity, Loving, Honest, and both lists could go on. The point being, you need to do a reality check.  Do you really look forward to seeing “them”?. Are there some laughs when together or just complaints? Too many people have way too many people cluttering up their inner peace space. If you really  work on yourself to achieve a mellow life, do a little inventory check and see who and  what can be let go of………….. A good friend is a friend at your convenience, not just theirs…and true friendships are everlasting. Treat your friends as you wish to be treated.

Short Sweet and To The Point

I would like to share……. what I would like to label wisdom. It would be a wasted life, if after 70, wisdom hasn’t come to stay, not just visit occasionally.  As a child, I had a strong sense of intuitiveness, and made good choices when it came to friends. Of course over the years, there were mistakes, but they turned out to be master learning lessons, also called experiences. I have written so much about friendship because of its importance and meaning

to me.  I consider my family friends and my friends family. I have always protected myself, well, most of the time, and tried not to allow my heart to lead without the important part of the team, the brain. Heart and mind must work together to make the right decisions. When I went with only my heart re friends or more, a mistake was waiting to happen. I realized a long time ago that I can’t be someone’s therapist……especially since I am not trained to be a therapist. Common sense does work and in my About page on this blog you can see that  I have had over 50 years experience concerning  women’s issues. You can’t make broken people whole, and you can’t carry their baggage .  You realize you are not being heartless when you are not able to give people what they can’t give themselves. I have always preferred people who are kind and trustworthy without them telling you  how kind and trustworthy they are. Just be, it’s that simple. I am forever grateful to have family and friends who “get me” and I “get them” The more you  self-love, the more you  allow only  those who deserve to be in your life….. a treasured place for both. Positive friendships nourish each other. Even on Twitter, you have  loyal followers who stay and we seem to have the same passions and kindness without telling each other constantly.  We were on the same path to meet, no matter how far, how young, how different. We are not so  different.  Over ten  years ago,  I literally ran away from New Jersey, after my husbands sudden death, I did emotional housecleaning, and left behind many” friends” who were judging my grief.  Emotional cleansing can continue as long as necessary. One of my favorite quotes about friendship….

“One of the most beautiful qualities of  true friendship is to understand and to be understood.” Lucius Annaeus Seneca

For everyone who reads this blog, I wish you cherished friendships that last a lifetime.