I remember when a friend died, and I wrote about what to do with her name in my phone book. That was easier because I knew she would not want to be crossed out in black, so I used a neon pink to just put a line through, and then when I needed a new phone book, she was no longer there.
Now in this era of Facebook I’m not sure what I’m comfortable with doing. I was shocked to hear of Aria’s death on Facebook. Her daughter put a notice in, with memorial plans for her Mother in Florida. She passed away April 7th after being in the hospital since January with an infection.
I met Aria at a few Stitch events and we had an immediate connection. We kept in touch occasionally, and always planned on getting together when she came back from Florida. She was a beautiful woman from inside out and her job and passion was working with underprivileged women and children. As many described her on Facebook, “she was a magnificent person.”
I was able to delete her email because it would be sad to always see her name and address.
I’m wondering what anyone reading this does when this happens to you. Please share.
I know that I’m not unfriending Aria. The spiritual side of me and she had the same old soul, guides me to leave her as a friend.
What better friend than a guardian angel. Rest in Peace Dear Aria.
It’s my birthday month. When my husband was alive we celebrated all holidays and occasions with gusto. I still do. I hear people complain about yet ” another birthday”. Well what’s the alternative? Of course the mirror will show you don’t look the same. If you’re healthy you can feel the same. One of my favorites. “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you were.” Satchel Paige. I know people who are healthy in body, but their mind told them they were old……at 70. Not for any physical reason, they just gave up and it got worse with each year. They are in their 80’s still bitching. I love positive nourishing friends. We exalt in still being here and doing what we feel like doing. The word grateful is in my vocabulary now, even more than usual. So much to be grateful for and that never goes away. I am grateful I am healthy and can celebrate. I’m not overly vain so I don’t scrutinize myself in the mirror. Of course I see differences….smile more and it’s somewhat of an immediate facelift. There are less invasive options if you want to plump up the hollows. I find candle light the best. If by some miracle, I have a date, it’s always night-time and why not!!!. Lighting is a simple solution. Back to the grateful list….I have children and grandchildren and will celebrate my birthday with family. Sheer joy. I also have a dear friend since five years old and we live near each other and celebrate together. Happy to have her in my life to enjoy all the city venues we love. I have another dear friend who literally got me published so many years ago. We also celebrate together. Of course I wish my West Coast family were here and my grandchildren….but will enjoy their good wishes and love.
Erma Bombeck, the wonderful humorist, once said she looked in the mirror one morning and said ” who is this old lady that moved in last night?’
My friends in NYC would never consider themselves “old ladies.” Nor do I.. If you think you are, then you are. I have a friend who always talks about old age. She relishes talking about it and I don’t relish hearing about it.
The value of vintage increases with each year. I prefer that term and was used to describe me in the New York Post recent video.
Very grateful to producers Heather, Elettra and Lea, They felt Ronni and I had not only something to say, but important enough to “put out there.” It was paramount that my children and grandchildren would be proud, and they were. Most of my family and friends understood its purpose and for that, forever grateful. When people in your life “get you” at any age, it’s very powerful. Those that judge, perhaps, have their own unhappiness or lack of self-awareness. Ronni and I were not interested in sensationalism. We wanted to discuss a subject that has no reason to be under the covers. To quote one of the producers..” I was extremely happy with it and thrilled that we could put a story like this into the world. It’s long overdue.”
I wish I knew it made a difference in some woman’s life who was inspired to try something she read about, and saw on a video. Perhaps to go shopping at Babeland for her birthday and buy something to experience and enjoy.
As someone once said, “try it, you might like it.” Happy Birthday to me and all who still celebrate……..
Just thinking that two of my favorite quotes have to do with animals and friendship…..
“The greatness of a nation can be judged by the way its animals are treated.” Gandhi
“What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.” Aristotle
I refuse to say where did March go. Instead will focus on one of my favorites April. I was born in April and my youngest grandson also April. I think of April as the beginning of Spring, not so much March. “The first day of spring is one thing, and the first spring day is another. The difference between them is sometimes as great as a month.” Henry Van Dyke
So a bit early but Happy April everyone and may your spring bloom the blossoms of hope.
I know I said I would never go back on, and of course that’s why there is the expression “never say never.” I did meet a selfless humanitarian last year who is totally unavailable emotionally and physically. Met him twice and and thrice won’t happen.
This post will be all over the place because I would like to bring up the two interviews I had. Global News Brazil and New York Post. Both videos that took hours and hours to shoot for a two minute segment. Fun and hopefully some women somewhere will be inspired.
Back to Tinder. Chelsea Handler talks of her experiences with Tinder on her show and I couldn’t imagine her being on this site with so many catfish swimming around. I recently found out that there is something called Tinder Select. You have to be a celebrity or chosen to be part of this inner sanctum. Obviously, I haven’t been asked, and see the usual types on this site. I’m not saying that some miracle might happen, and you meet someone nice. That is very rare and would love to hear some great experiences. You might say why go on again. Well, its not a vodka or wine decision since I don’t drink at home, lonely or sad decision? Not really, I don’t allow those. I have practiced and live a mindfulness life….Too busy being grateful, and have no room for the negative thoughts. I seriously even practice yoga laughter. Perhaps curiosity or false hopes push me to the app.
Going back, there are some of the same men who seem to be regulars. God, I hope I’m never going to be a regular and show up all the time. Same half-naked guys who are holding dead fish, next to their trucks of choice, tattooed all over, and something new…..holding guns and some wearing “make America great again” red hats. Some liberal guys actually put on their profile– ‘if you voted for trump swipe left”. The usual cuddly ones who want to cuddle and walk on the beach at night…. I swipe left more times than ever taking a chance, because if they sound and look great, they are usually catfish. The dishonest profiles have red flags waving as I said in a past post. I have new blog followers and Twitter followers and repeat my warning. The men are always terrific looking, all American types, they are widowers, generally raising a child, jobs take them all over the world, and their texts are filled with spelling and grammatical mistakes. I have spotted over a dozen in two weeks. They are only dangerous to men and women who are vulnerable and lonely and fall for the garbage they write. Immediately they are in love with you and want your contact information and give you theirs. Unmatch immediately if you see the danger signs. Eventually they will probably ask for money. Rarely do they ever want to meet. Most are from other countries and have stolen photos and fake identities from profiles. Haven’t met one guy on recently that I actually want to meet, and have a strong suspicion I will go off very soon. I don’t know for sure, but almost positive that I’m the oldest person on Tinder. I have a new “golden rule.” They must be older than my sons and that is non negotiable. Harold and Maude is not my style.
I hope to have the link to the Granny Production video that will be out soon. The Global News Brazil was wonderful for Stitch. Michelle and Ni were fantastic and hundreds of new followers joined Stitch.net. I was ok, but my living room looked pretty.
I just read Grace and Frankie will be back on March 24th. They both are in the sex toy business. Vibrators for the older women, and it’s looks hysterical. The video I am on with my free spirit friend Ronni addresses solo sex and the older woman. I’m not interested in becoming the spokeswoman for solo sex, but it certainly beats the alternative of no sex. My purpose always has been to inspire and hopefully after watching the video, women of a certain age, might have a smile going on, and the feeling, “Well that felt good!!!!!”
Please google the health benefits of Rooibos tea… To drink everyday🤗
That time of year, almost, when new hopes and dreams are imagined and hopefully fertilized. You always have to be Awake and ready.
I was asked to do an interview and talk about the Stitch Community. I’m always happy to do this, because I believe so strongly in their vision for a site that literally stitches a community together. People from all over the world connecting with each other. I know this personally. I met a great new friend from New Zealand. Last year June was a stranger, and this year visiting as a friend. It will be a joy to see and be with her again. Makes the world a smaller place. Tomorrow night having dinner with two new friends who attended the Stitch Comic Strip event
So two producers, a camera person and assistant came to my apartment and they were all terrific. I trusted them immediately and felt very much at ease during the process. It took over five hours. It was for a news show in Brazil that talked about different ways of aging etc etc. There were two women that I wanted with me during this interview because I knew their input would be high energy and positive. Michell and Ni, I thank you because as Ni said after seeing the tape, “we were all on point.” Marcie and Andrew from Stitch were pleased and the best news was they had large spike of new members.
The process was somewhat strange because I’m not that familiar with editing and finished product.
As I said they were here for over five hours and the finished product? I think the entire coverage of the three of us was 3 minutes. Marcie on tape fortunately was able to talk in more specific ways about Stitch and that was the point. My only problem…….we were three pretty savvy women talking about age, men, and lack of men, and so many other subjects. Good stuff that sadly couldn’t be shown because of the time restraint.
Just saying, interesting, very interesting conversations we had…..somewhere in the universe I guess…..
When I lived in New Jersey a lifetime ago, I always assumed my washing machine and dryer would live forever. We had Maytag and that was their reputation. So while I didn’t take humans for granted, I did take my washing machine and dryer very much for granted. As a matter of fact, they are what I miss most in New Jersey….except for a rare few people I love from my other life with my wonderful husband. When occasionally my machines stopped performing, I would call a service person and like magic they were fixed. Now I live in an apartment in New York City, and machines are in laundry room and not my responsibility.
So what is my responsibility…….. is me, and the machines that have to keep working? My phone and my computer.
The last two days I have been on the phone trying to get information re Medicare and Aarp. My iPhone and computer. Yesterday I was only on the phone for five hours and got very little info that I needed. Voila, they told me to call Social Security which I did, and was told the wait would be over one hour. Just to myself I said f this and hung up. I literally was on the phone for five hours with no satisfaction. I also gave name and date of birth about thirty times.
Today was a different issue. No internet connection on phone or computer. I immediately called my provider which happens to be Spectrum, hoping it was a location issue. That’s easy since its their problem and would be repaired or whatever it requires to fix and all will be fine. But alas it was with my modem and router. I should be embarrassed to say I didn’t know one from the other. Actually, I don’t know the difference or I didn’t until today. I was on the phone with Apple and Spectrum for several hours but with a huge difference. I owe huge gratitude to Ally at Apple. She was knowledgeable and extremely patient. She even called me back when we were disconnected. She also realized it wasn’t an Apple problem, but with my modem and router. So I called my provider and to my surprise, got someone immediately willing and able to help. I also had a quick lesson in those two mysterious boxes. Very easy now to know the difference. Don’t know if you can relate, but when it comes to wires and taking them in and out, and unplugging devices, I get very nervous and think everything is going to just disconnect and will have to wait a week to find out what I did wrong. Oh, didn’t want to forget that Ally said if I have a problem to please call her and she gave me her contact information. A miracle in my opinion. Now I’m beginning to feel like a tech genius plugging wires in and out and nothing is blowing up. Spectrum advisor was very helpful and extremely patient. Issue solved. She asked if I would take part in a survey and the end of the call. I know it sounds so easy…..five simple questions and you do on your phone..1-10 is your choice to answer. 1 not satisfied to 10 totally satisfied. Here’s the tricky part…they tell you how to do 10. I have no clue and end up giving a 9. At the end of survey you can leave message and I have left the same message several times over the last few months. “I meant to answer 10 on all questions, but not sure how to put in so leave 9. As you can see the tech part of my life is not where my strengths are strongest.
So today not as frustrating… When I think of what’s going on in this county and the rest of the world, I realize spending hours on the phone is pretty easy compared to trading places with anyone else. I have a friend who is helping in a country across the world where people are starving and being murdered. Over the years, gratitude has taken over any real complaining. It’s part of the mindfulness experience of how to live….if you’re fortunate to have the choice.