I would like to share……. what I would like to label wisdom. It would be a wasted life, if after 70, wisdom hasn’t come to stay, not just visit occasionally. As a child, I had a strong sense of intuitiveness, and made good choices when it came to friends. Of course over the years, there were mistakes, but they turned out to be master learning lessons, also called experiences. I have written so much about friendship because of its importance and meaning
to me. I consider my family friends and my friends family. I have always protected myself, well, most of the time, and tried not to allow my heart to lead without the important part of the team, the brain. Heart and mind must work together to make the right decisions. When I went with only my heart re friends or more, a mistake was waiting to happen. I realized a long time ago that I can’t be someone’s therapist……especially since I am not trained to be a therapist. Common sense does work and in my About page on this blog you can see that I have had over 50 years experience concerning women’s issues. You can’t make broken people whole, and you can’t carry their baggage . You realize you are not being heartless when you are not able to give people what they can’t give themselves. I have always preferred people who are kind and trustworthy without them telling you how kind and trustworthy they are. Just be, it’s that simple. I am forever grateful to have family and friends who “get me” and I “get them” The more you self-love, the more you allow only those who deserve to be in your life….. a treasured place for both. Positive friendships nourish each other. Even on Twitter, you have loyal followers who stay and we seem to have the same passions and kindness without telling each other constantly. We were on the same path to meet, no matter how far, how young, how different. We are not so different. Over ten years ago, I literally ran away from New Jersey, after my husbands sudden death, I did emotional housecleaning, and left behind many” friends” who were judging my grief. Emotional cleansing can continue as long as necessary. One of my favorite quotes about friendship….
“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.” Lucius Annaeus Seneca
For everyone who reads this blog, I wish you cherished friendships that last a lifetime.