noun…” a strong belief something will happen or be the case in the future.”
We all have expectations. Perhaps we should sit back and think about our expectations of ourselves and others. Are we disappointed more often than not? Perhaps we should have expectations only of ourselves. Seems to be more of a control window of opportunity. For others? Not so much. Do more realistic thinking and less magical thinking.
The older one gets the less expectations of “others” and the result? Fewer disappointments.
The lower they become, the more surprised you become when others do what you think they should. Be surprised rather than hurt. That is a waste of your time and serves no purpose.
My husband died suddenly and I had false ideas of how friends would “be there.’ They also had their own plans for my grieving process and how soon “I should get over it.” As if I had some virus that would come and go. My loss? I never got over it, but I did get through it with love and comfort from family and true and wonderful friends. They never led me or pushed me, but walked side by side with me.
So, I guess the point of this post is: Expect the most from very few. Expect the least from most……..and your disappointments will be a thing of the past.
but, then again……….
“The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing.” Blaise Pascal