Still a dreamer…Old Memories and New Hopes


It’s my birthday month. When my husband was alive we celebrated all holidays and occasions with gusto. I still do. I hear people complain about yet ” another birthday”. Well what’s the alternative? Of course the mirror will show you don’t look the same. If you’re healthy you can feel the same. One of my favorites. “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you were.” Satchel Paige. I know people who are healthy in body, but their mind told them they were old……at 70. Not for any physical reason, they just gave up and it got worse with each year. They are in their 80’s still bitching. I love positive nourishing friends. We exalt in still being here and doing what we feel like doing. The word grateful is in my vocabulary now, even more than usual. So much to be grateful for and that never goes away. I am grateful I am healthy and can celebrate. I’m not overly vain so I don’t scrutinize myself in the mirror. Of course I see differences….smile more and it’s somewhat of an immediate facelift. There are less invasive options if you want to plump up the hollows. I find candle light the best. If by some miracle, I have a date, it’s always night-time and why not!!!. Lighting is a simple solution. Back to the grateful list….I have children and grandchildren and will celebrate my birthday with family. Sheer joy. I also have a dear friend since five years old and we live near each other and celebrate together. Happy to have her in my life to enjoy all the city venues we love. I have another dear friend who literally got me published so many years ago. We also celebrate together. Of course I wish my West Coast family were here and my grandchildren….but will enjoy their good wishes and love.
Erma Bombeck, the wonderful humorist, once said she looked in the mirror one morning and said ” who is this old lady that moved in last night?’
My friends in NYC would never consider themselves “old ladies.” Nor do I.. If you think you are, then you are. I have a friend who always talks about old age. She relishes talking about it and I don’t relish hearing about it.
The value of vintage increases with each year. I prefer that term and was used to describe me in the New York Post recent video.
Very grateful to producers Heather, Elettra and Lea, They felt Ronni and I had not only something to say, but important enough to “put out there.” It was paramount that my children and grandchildren would be proud, and they were. Most of my family and friends understood its purpose and for that, forever grateful. When people in your life “get you” at any age, it’s very powerful. Those that judge, perhaps, have their own unhappiness or lack of self-awareness. Ronni and I were not interested in sensationalism. We wanted to discuss a subject that has no reason to be under the covers. To quote one of the producers..” I was extremely happy with it and thrilled that we could put a story like this into the world. It’s long overdue.”
I wish I knew it made a difference in some woman’s life who was inspired to try something she read about, and saw on a video. Perhaps to go shopping at Babeland for her birthday and buy something to experience and enjoy.
As someone once said, “try it, you might like it.” Happy Birthday to me and all who still celebrate……..

Comments on: "Taurus" (10)

  1. Happy birthday, Paulette! May you alwsys be in good oral and written voice. Father in law died a couple months ago, it was time, 91. Last few years he was an angry man some of his own doing some related to dementia. Tough & sad. Again, happy day with many celebrations.

    • Thank you Paul for your kind good wishes. You are always so supportive of my writing and please know I appreciate. If you would like to send another friend request, that would be fine. People do have issues as they get older and that is sad, but some create their own problems and issues. Hey, we are only here once so you might as might enjoy and relish the moments. My role models are Cecily Tyson, Angela Lansbury, Betty White and so many other women in their 90’s working and loving and living their lives.

    • Sorry about your father in law.

  2. Happy birthday, dear friend! As life changes and we change with life, we must still live and find ways to live a healthy and joyous life as best as we can. Blessings to you, always! ❤

  3. Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday to you! Happy Birthday dear Paulette!! Happy Birthday to you!!! 💖💕😙😁🌷🍓🍦🍨🎂🍬🍭😊😂💓💙💞💟💥
    I know you will have a glorious month and birthday!!!! :-*

    • Your Birthday message made me smile. Dear Courtney, and will re read on the 28th. Thank you. Your support and kindness so very appreciated.❌⭕🤗

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