mother nature is a man and other observations..

By Paula Paulette

…………so the story goes…….Once upon a time a young woman was having an affair with a married man. He had four children. The last thing he wanted was a pregnant girlfriend. He divorced his wife and made the decision to marry his girlfriend. She had a dear friend who begged her to have the baby, not so much for religious reasons, but because she knew her friend would regret the decision to abort, a child she very much wanted. Her friend offered her home and said she would care for both the young mom and her baby. A heartfelt gesture, but one not taken. Decision was made, she married her boyfriend, and had an abortion. It wasn’t an easy decision in “those days.” It was also very dangerous. She never became pregnant again. She would go to the mall occasionally, going in baby stores and gently caressing the clothes and stuffed animals. She wanted to walk with a carriage and pretended that she was interesting in purchasing. Every baby she saw, her eyes lingered in sadness and longing. Thirty years passed and she still hears cries from an empty womb. She never forgot. Happily, his children and later on grandchildren became hers. Her friend never understood why such a generous offer was not accepted, pleading with her at the time. There are no do overs and sadly the empty wombs stay empty…………………This was originally published in URAWarrior.com. Please check Bershan Shaw and URAWarrior for other posts by me. Thank you kindly. In the year 2014 single women can have babies, not just in their mind, but in their arms. New York Times 4/14..”Abortion is not a crime, it’s a right.”

I recently wrote that having those you love, love you back is joy beyond description. To be understood, because certain opinions count in your life. “I get you” are priceless words. Individuality is not always easy to carry off. When you are not like the “others” you need to work harder to keep what is precious. Your sense of self. So many times, I have told women, you don’t necessarily strive to be different, you are, and rejoicing in your sense of self is empowering. I have personally known women who are strangers to their own families, and for years, longing for validation. Once they took the power from negative family members and gave it to themselves, they flourished by their own nourishment. So, getting to the core of this post, the best kind of love, is loving yourself, so you can be loved in return.”Love is, above all, the gift of oneself.” Jean Anouith

I am proud to be part of Team Bershan, who is a two-time breast cancer survivor, N.Y.U. certified life coach, motivational speaker, and CEO and founder of URAWarrior…most recently part of Love In The City, Oprah Own Channel. A fun docu-series about four friends facing life’s challenges with fun and spice. I’m a friend and supporter of this remarkable woman. Her positive energy is powerful and contagious, and in my opinion, contributed to her surviving stage 4 breast cancer. Beautiful on the outside, but even more important, on the inside. URAWarrior has just launched a new website, Please, if you have time, sign up and utilize the terrific features…I personally have posts written from my heart and hope to share with all of you. So many wonderful stories written by women that you might find relatable in your own lives. I write under name Paula Paulette. Your comments would be most appreciated. Thank you all most kindly for your support of me and this wonder-filled site.