Still a dreamer…Old Memories and New Hopes

A Natural Choice

Taking matters in your own hand….a why not manual for women of all ages…You know just where and when, and for how long…round and round you go …a small voltive candle on the night stand, Channel Orange playing in the background, you glance at a picture of someone you loved so much, or you have your own fantasy, and you keep going round and round fast and faster and breathing so quickly, you almost can’t breath and then a release unlike any other…just totally relaxed… a faint smile, and if only there was someone to kiss…if only someone to hug you…if only…if only..

TV…my friend

I am a bit wary of anything connected to a plug, no matter how necessary. Never taking people for granted, I do assume the “things” in my apartment will last forever. What I miss in my apartment? My very own washing machine and dryer, and in New Jersey I had Maytag and seemed to last forever. A given in the 50’s.
TV, computer, phones, hairdryer, flat iron, vacuum cleaner—-please keep working, that’s all I ask. My television is my best friend in the apartment with the computer a strong second best. I totally panic when weird things happen with my electronic compatibility mode.
Digressing, but have you ever noticed that people who don’t own a TV feel they must share that information? I prefer, don’t watch, don’t tell! My sister in law was at a party and met a man that she described as intelligent, charming, and he doesn’t watch television. The recommendation for me, would be the same if she said, intelligent, terrific, cute, and hunts. I don’t think a match made in the universe………………Mr. Charming called me, and within five seconds into our conversation, tells me he hates television and doesn’t even own one,(redundant) and he can’t imagine people watching the idiot box. Of course, within three seconds I felt compelled to tell him I have a very close relationship with my high definition television. I neglected to mention my stuffed westies and rabbits..
“Wow, you don’t even own a TV? Guess that would make it difficult to watch anything”. For me I added, “it’s the first thing I turn on in the morning, and the last thing that goes off at night”. (actually 50% of the time I listen to jazz, on my TV.) I said Wow again, to somehow diffuse his arrogance. “Television is an integral part of my life.” He said he had another call and would get right back to me. That was five years ago.

A wonderful documentary that I just experienced…when I really love something, it becomes an experience. Stories We Tell is about love, family secrets, and truth, depending on who’s telling it. A line from the poem quoted in the film, by Pablo Neruda has stayed with me. “Love is so short, forgetting is so long.” The film is written, directed, and lived by Sarah Polley.

Selective memory, as you get older, is just plain wonderful!!!!!

A sweet day

If you are able medically, a lovely way to start the day is with a few small pieces of very dark chocolate…anything above 85%. It really is quite satisfying, and if not allergic, is very healthy. 90-100% is even better. Also, if you eat several meals a day as I do,, small portions of almonds, walnuts, filberts, and pecans, throughout the day are not only beneficial, but very filling.. Please add any of your own healthy tips..Thanks..I think everyone has something of interest to add.

Channel Orange

Listening and experiencing the music of Frank Ocean fills you with desire, longing, and love.

To be desired does not necessarily equate to being loved. I’ve experienced both, and I prefer the team!

Very often, I send out a blog and after re-reading several times, spelling mistakes slip by..wish they had a spell check..thanks for understanding..

Sometimes we are faced with a personal situation, and if we don’t reign our thoughts in, we overthink, and then end up making the mistake we were afraid of making..a self fulfilling prophecy, not an option for me…too complicated to think about mistakes.. You definitely don’t want to ask opinions, knowing if you ask 10, you will get 10, and your own will get muddled somehow. You of course, don’t want to hurt anyone in the process, but in this case, the only one who would end up getting hurt would be me, and obviously at this age, I no longer have to worry about being “a good little girl,” and will take full responsibility. One opinion that was given is one I do respect highly, from my co-author..( 80,000 word novel we recently finished}…she knows me very well, and said “I don’t know if you could handle it.” I’m not sure either, but in a light mood, I’m apt to feel why not, fully aware that some why nots for the moment turn into what did I dos forever. In an earlier post, I made reference slightly to this situation (Evasive, but necessary for now) and will share more at a later time. I would like to refer to a terrifc comment made by Phaedra on 4/29..She talked about never having regrets and she is in a place in life, and decided it all worked out pretty great, mistakes and all..I really enjoyed her words and I feel the same. It puts your emotions in balance, instead of living with all kinds of regrets, and that only leads to all kinds of guilt in a huge way. Definitely not a hedonist, but just a devout romantic with a lovely opportunity…so many differences, but even more important, so difficult to pass up.

Buddhist Philosophy

Addiction to a thought is seen as a major obstacle to enlightenment, because when our attention is focused on negative thought, we cannot experience reality.