mother nature is a man and other observations..

Valentine’s Day Day….Go Away

1. This was originally posted on URAWarrior February 2014. February 2o16.. So this year , no new love, but having fun family love time in Virginia. Celebrating my niece’s father in laws birthday on 14th. Lovely celebration. Forever grateful for the most important joys in my life ❣💗💓💗💌💓🌈🌷🌺

Three women. One widowed for nine years, one woman divorced unhappily for fifteen years, and one woman married and miserable for forty-five years. Their solid friendship for many years cemented by their sense of self and sense of humor, One woman asked the origin of Valentine’s Day. The other two chimed in “who cares.” …..but, said the first woman. In 1537 England’s King Henry V11 declared February 14th the holiday St.Valentine’s Day. So would any of us prefer King Henry to our own company? Absolutely not the three said and laughed.

So what to do on a totally commercialized romantic evening? I love you cards. I love you balloons. I love you cakes and cookies , and jacked up prices on I love you flowers. No matter how high your self-esteem, who buys this stuff for themselves.? Oh, maybe a new red lip gloss from Sephora might be fun. Know thyself, and stay as far away as possible from lingerie shops, card shops, candy stores, and Tiffany, should also be avoided. Too many men leaving with that small aqua shopping bag.

Staying under the covers watching The Way We Were is torture. Only if you enjoy self-torture go for it. Reading love quotes should also be avoided. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone gives you courage.” Lao Tzu

These women do not lack strength or courage. They have the love of each other and family. They are each others emotional transfusions.They do not whine. They know all that they are grateful for.

However………bottom line…..Valentine’s Day sucks when you’re alone. February 15th will only be a  day away. Having hopes and dreams! February 2016 is only a year away.

WISHING EVERYONE A HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Older singles are getting frisky on ‘Tinder for seniors’ by Jennifer Wright

I was asked by Stitch  to be interviewed for the New York Post. The article is in Sunday. January 25.  I said yes and as long as I could use paula paulette. That is the name I write under for URAWarrior and Bershan Shaw. The article was about Stitch , not me and I was very pleased with the way it came out. If you google the article and New York Post, it will come up and you can read. Sadly I haven’t had a date in five years, and actually never went out with a man twice. Perhaps I have and I know I have…..had my one great love forever.  I am ok with that. Really I am ok really ok…..but

A World Opened

Just wondering what we did before Facebook, Twitter, and Blogging. Many people I know live very nicely without any social networks at all. I certainly did. I only started in my late, very late, 70’s and as I once wrote, thought it was all just silly. Until I tried it. I wouldn’t use silly in any form to describe how my world and purpose has extended beyond the usual. Unless someone is actually on and enjoying all that it offers, it is difficult to explain. This is actually a shout out thank you to everyone who follows my blog, is on Facebook with me, and last but not least Twitter followers. We have made connections that are life affirming and meaningful. Some fun, some serious, and some friends forever. I am fortunate that I have only had one experience that was not pleasant, but that is behind me. When my words inspire in any way, I feel a completeness……even recommending apple cider vinegar jelly. We sometimes overuse the word love, but I think I use in the most sincere way. When I say thank you with love to all who have read my words and comment, it is with gratitude and appreciation.        Silly? Hardly!!!!!!!

Reality Check…..every now and then….

I had one of those sleepless nights, and started to think, not the best way to fall asleep, and realized the friends in my life that I treasure and cherish all have the same traits. Not such a surprise. If you know yourself very well, you make good choices about who you let in. So what are the words that really turn me off…..arrogance, insincerity, shallow, entitlement, hate, negative, mean-spirited. …………………..and the opposite? Kindness, Humility, Caring, Genuine, Integrity, Loving, Honest, and both lists could go on. The point being, you need to do a reality check.  Do you really look forward to seeing “them”?. Are there some laughs when together or just complaints? Too many people have way too many people cluttering up their inner peace space. If you really  work on yourself to achieve a mellow life, do a little inventory check and see who and  what can be let go of………….. A good friend is a friend at your convenience, not just theirs…and true friendships are everlasting. Treat your friends as you wish to be treated.

Short Sweet and To The Point

I would like to share……. what I would like to label wisdom. It would be a wasted life, if after 70, wisdom hasn’t come to stay, not just visit occasionally.  As a child, I had a strong sense of intuitiveness, and made good choices when it came to friends. Of course over the years, there were mistakes, but they turned out to be master learning lessons, also called experiences. I have written so much about friendship because of its importance and meaning

to me.  I consider my family friends and my friends family. I have always protected myself, well, most of the time, and tried not to allow my heart to lead without the important part of the team, the brain. Heart and mind must work together to make the right decisions. When I went with only my heart re friends or more, a mistake was waiting to happen. I realized a long time ago that I can’t be someone’s therapist……especially since I am not trained to be a therapist. Common sense does work and in my About page on this blog you can see that  I have had over 50 years experience concerning  women’s issues. You can’t make broken people whole, and you can’t carry their baggage .  You realize you are not being heartless when you are not able to give people what they can’t give themselves. I have always preferred people who are kind and trustworthy without them telling you  how kind and trustworthy they are. Just be, it’s that simple. I am forever grateful to have family and friends who “get me” and I “get them” The more you  self-love, the more you  allow only  those who deserve to be in your life….. a treasured place for both. Positive friendships nourish each other. Even on Twitter, you have  loyal followers who stay and we seem to have the same passions and kindness without telling each other constantly.  We were on the same path to meet, no matter how far, how young, how different. We are not so  different.  Over ten  years ago,  I literally ran away from New Jersey, after my husbands sudden death, I did emotional housecleaning, and left behind many” friends” who were judging my grief.  Emotional cleansing can continue as long as necessary. One of my favorite quotes about friendship….

“One of the most beautiful qualities of  true friendship is to understand and to be understood.” Lucius Annaeus Seneca

For everyone who reads this blog, I wish you cherished friendships that last a lifetime.

Warm Thoughts On A Cold Day In NYC

There are so many wise quotes to select, but certain ones just seem to do the trick for me. Actually not a trick, but a working self therapy. Hope some of these find their way to you as well.

“Friends….They cherish one another’s  hopes. They are kind to one another’s dreams.” Henry David Thoreau

“Gratitude is one of the most medicinal emotions we can feel. It elevates our moods and fills us with joy.” Living Positive

“What people call serendipity sometimes is just having your eyes open.” Jose Manuel Barroso

“There will  always be serendipity involved in discovery.” Jeff Bezos

“Love is, above all,  the gift of oneself.” Jean Anouith

“I had a second birth when my soul and my body loved one another and were married.” Kahlil Gibran

Just a few to ponder………. In April I will be having a milestone birthday that I will address when the cold eases and spring has arrived. Seems more appropriate to write about that coming of age when life is budding , than in the freezing barren  winter. One thing I have learned over the years is how to take care of myself. If one is fortunate to have good health……… then most of the time, you can heal yourself, emotionally and physically. Not all of course, but enough where  holistic healing and nutritional caring give back to you. Since my husbands sudden death over ten years ago, I began the quest for emotional housecleaning and wrote Friendship Garden. Necessary to surround yourself with positive people. You nourish each other. I try very hard to weed the toxic plants,  leaving just emotional beauty. I cherish my family and friends, and the bonus??? The feelings come right back. Toxic people are just plain toxic to themselves and others. . Positive over the negative. The ones who “get you” are  keepers. Be very careful who you let in.  I have always said the heart and  brain must work together as a team. One without the other is lost, and doesn’t work very well. At my age, to have people call you wise is a compliment beyond description. Wisdom doesn’t  automatically arrive at the same time as age. That is not a given. Wisdom is using  life’s experiences, knowledge, good judgement, and common sense. To be inspiring is to be joyful.

For the New Year, may we all use wisdom in our judgements and learn to trust our intuition. For those who believe…….that  ” thing” called intuition?  Our guardian angel whispering.

New Year Thoughts on New Years Eve And Beyond

Alone…..Not lonely…………. Day…Went to a film with two good friends. Early  supper and several hours of intelligent conversation about many subjects.  In New York City, social energy is  there and contagious, especially when with women who have something to say. We didn’t solve any of the worlds  problems….not even NYC issues. Night…My son and “daughter” went to Carolines on Broadway, a terrific comedy club for the early show. They asked me to stay over and celebrate with them and a few couples. A lovely invitation even though I had made earlier plans  with Kathy Griffin and Anderson Cooper , watching the show with Lucky, my Havenese love.  I did my thing and wanted them to do theirs with friends. I did manage to come out of the bedroom to share in welcoming the New Year with champagne. I am forever grateful to have family a crosstown bus away. Later That Night…Missing you always. Memories of formal New Years Eve Galas at the club. Another life time ago. Remembering now without the same pain. Remembering now with gratitude that my memories no longer haunt, but comfort me. My thoughts for the New Year?  Keep going forward. And for all who are reading this, may 2015 bring you all that you wish for yourself. Happy New Year!

I Thank you

The end of one year and the beginning of a New Year. Very simply, with grateful appreciation, I thank all  who follow  Mothernatureisaman.  To have my words read is a joy beyond description. The lovely bonus , reading your comments. Your words mean as much to me as the venue I have to deliver my thoughts to you. I  add Twitter  followers who also read my blog. Heartfelt thanks to one and all, and may the New Year bring you good health, peace, love of family and friends, and the joy of kindness to yourself and others. Paulette

Many Feelings, No Words

I had the strangest day and evening and wanted to share my experience. Usually I have so much to say and not difficult for me to express myself…Now I am having difficulty.

I went to visit Edith, my 97-year-old friend..She is in pretty good shape and lives in a Senior Residence. She asked me to stay for dinner as she often does, but I am rarely able to stay. Tonight I was going to The Beacon Theatre on the Upper West Side, very close to where Edith lives. There is a New York Comedy Festival going on now, and Dane Cook was at The Beacon. He is one of today’s most prolific stand -up-comedians. Also an actor in a variety of film and television projects. One word, Hilarious. I went with my daughter in law and one word describing her, daughter.

I had dinner with Edith in the dining room and I was the youngest one in the room. One word, depressing.

Then I left to meet Stacey and we had a drink first, I needed one, and went just across the street to the beautiful Beacon Theatre. We, not just me, were the oldest by far in the entire theatre. One word, weird.

Dane Cook is not only very funny, but his intelligent comedy makes you think and laugh. Over an hour later, I took the bus back to my apartment. Many emotions, many feelings, but…….

No Words!!!!……………………………well maybe one….grateful