These are words that I read on Facebook and there was no author to give credit …..I love the words…
Don’t regret knowing the people who come into your life.
Good people give you happiness.
The worst ones give you lessons.
And the best ones give you memories…….
Personally I believe all regrets and guilt…..a complete waste of time and energy. On a personal note, I have had happiness, I have had many lessons, but more importantly I have the very best wonderful memories.
………..and yet again a new way of non verbal communication. The tech age has scored again? Maybe not. This is not just a way of non communication for men. Women are doing this as well.
I always associated ghosts with Halloween or creepy scenes in a scary movie. This is not far removed from that. It seems when a man or woman want to end a relationship, whether long or very short, it is done with no words. Nothing. No closure. Nothing. I just spoke with a young woman who went out with a guy four times and had a great time each time. Then zero. He disappeared. She was sure he had died. She never heard from him again, and he never answered her many calls, texts, emails. She didn’t want to be accused of being a stalker, so she gave up. Read recently that women are doing the same thing. Seems the easy way out. I could never do that. It seems to me you lack courage and very cowardly when decency and consideration are missing. Forget integrity entirely.
Have you heard the expression, “there are plenty of fish in the sea?” What sea? Sadly so many fish are becoming an endangered species.
I don’t believe in ghosts and aren’t they dead……anyway……….
To be a good friend? Not always at your convenience. Be there when needed at their convenience. Be there when they’re together. Be there when they’ve fallen apart. Be there when you can tell just by the sound of their voice, the tears are being held back. Be part of the emotional glue helping to put them together. Laugh with friends and cry with friends. Exalt in the sun together and dance in the rain holding their hands. Cry with friends. If needed, gently suggest therapy . You’re a friend, not trained to deal with very serious issues that may need medication. and professional help. Self therapy may come later when they get stronger and they are able to utilize emotional tools that will be given them in times of severe stress.
And always be there. Not leading, not pushing, but walking side by side, by their side.
A dear friend……..Priceless
Not strangers. They spoke and they wrote to one another…..and then they met. A second date. Her apartment…
The human touch missed for so long. Over ten years……… They had an immediate attraction for one another, and together experienced intense passion and desire for hours, just being together on her couch. He knew how to kiss and hold her. She considers that an art form that not all men know how to do.
He said “I don’t want to leave.” She said, “I don’t want you to leave. Two consenting adults one desire, but she asked him to leave.
What was she thinking. He left.
Was he hurt? Was the age difference too different? Was it all too soon?
She never found out.
Regrets? She has a few. Very often it’s what we don’t do that we regret most.
She never forgot him.
“Close your eyes fall in love stay there.” Rumi
We become our experiences and they become our lessons. pm
noun…” a strong belief something will happen or be the case in the future.”
We all have expectations. Perhaps we should sit back and think about our expectations of ourselves and others. Are we disappointed more often than not? Perhaps we should have expectations only of ourselves. Seems to be more of a control window of opportunity. For others? Not so much. Do more realistic thinking and less magical thinking.
The older one gets the less expectations of “others” and the result? Fewer disappointments.
The lower they become, the more surprised you become when others do what you think they should. Be surprised rather than hurt. That is a waste of your time and serves no purpose.
My husband died suddenly and I had false ideas of how friends would “be there.’ They also had their own plans for my grieving process and how soon “I should get over it.” As if I had some virus that would come and go. My loss? I never got over it, but I did get through it with love and comfort from family and true and wonderful friends. They never led me or pushed me, but walked side by side with me.
So, I guess the point of this post is: Expect the most from very few. Expect the least from most……..and your disappointments will be a thing of the past.
but, then again……….
“The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing.” Blaise Pascal
I have been busy celebrating my big birthday. First in California with my family….Wonder-filled experience. My sons together with their wives together and three grandchildren, all enjoying each other. 21–19–18..Is there anything better? No….If that wasn’t enough, I arrived home, back to NYC and within two days left for Virginia and North Carolina to be with my brother and family there. What fun going to the Outer Banks in North Carolina and staying at a Victorian mansion on the beach. Ten bedrooms and what fun. So generous of my nieces husband. 12 of us actually enjoying each other for a week. The last four weeks has been family working in the most loving way. ….then back to Virginia for another two weeks. My sister-in-law could win a prize for the best cook and the ability to make me feel loved and cared for. All in all, the best birthday celebration I could ask for.
Will be back shortly with new blogs. Have had some unsettling experiences with I believe to be a catfish personality and will try to write a little warning to women.
Hope everyone reading this is well and enjoying summer sun shine and many joys. xo
Noun:” The occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.” I find it quite a wonderful experience when you can go to a beautiful wedding with over 325 people, knowing very few…..and alone. I was delighted to go with my daughter in law, my chosen daughter. She was also alone since my son was away on business. We were at different tables. I love to dance and that I did with a young couple. You can enjoy yourself when alone if you don’t let being alone trigger the sadness and void. So a shout out thank you to Susan, Cindy and Tom, Nancy and Scott, Lucy and your husband. Gary who made a point to come over and say hi, and whoever I may have left out. A special few were definitely serendipity, since one wanted to “fix me up.” and another wrote me beautiful words on my blog. As I always think, You Never Know. Hope surrounds me……and I HOPE Serendipity as well.
I had all good intentions to write about reaching this milestone birthday 4/28/35….It was getting too long. I believe less is more.
I am forever grateful having good health, family and friends who love me as much as I love them.
“They” say a picture is worth a thousand words. Here are two of them.
Heartfelt thanks to my good friend Frank for taking the photographs.
I wish to thank all followers and those that read my blog occasionally and comment. I appreciate all your support and kindness. When you write just for the love of writing, and have people read and enjoy your written word, the feeling is quite wonderful. Thank you for that feeling again and again. I have always thought to inspire through words is a lovely purpose.
So where did the years go. Why do I feel no age? Although I love what Erma Bombeck said when she looked in the mirror one morning. “Who’s the old lady who moved in last night.” Just saying, and not writing a blog about the milestone……when I am in a lovely up frame of mine, my strength leads me in the direction of just not thinking about the negatives. When a bit of weakness sets in, my thoughts are not so wonderful wonderful. But, I am here. When I had cataract surgery, some doctor at Manhattan Eye and Ear said …”.be thankful you’re old enough to have them and taken care of,” Well, that’s a thought. I loved President Obama’s comedy routine at the White House Correspondents dinner when he spoke of his “bucket” list.
So, 80….not to be feared just grateful and “bucket”!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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