Brave, wonder-filled, daring..to show women of every age, looking absolutely marvelous, wrinkles and all. Beauty of heart and soul shining brightly from within. How refreshing to experience them. Would love to see the entire magazine devoted to women over 60 who have secrets of their own to share. Perhaps bodies as well!!!! Browse any fashion magazine ( I rarely do) and what do you see? Styled women in their 20’s,30’s 40’s and some daring enough to go to the 50’s. It then ends. Where are the women 60-100? We’re out there. Reading, going to every cultural event, contributing, shopping and adding to economy still, living…. Having dinner with women friends, and what might be shocking? Drinking, having sex with or without a partner. Where legal, some even smoking weed. Why are their voices unheard?…In O there was a full-page devoted to a 100-year-old woman, still teaching and offering her wisdom. Proof that if in good health, age is just a number, not a limitation.. Wish more magazines would take the plunge.Jane Fonda at 76 doesn’t deny aging and her own mortality. She said “With age, I am able to appreciate beauty in small things, more than when I was younger, perhaps because I pay attention more.” Perhaps the media should pay more attention to women that can add their wisdom to the world.
O….The Oprah Magazine June 2014
Timing
Thirty five years ago I met a new friend at a writing workshop. I had an idea for a book that I then decided what I was so sure about writing, I became unsure. My new friend suggested we do the book together, and that was the birth of our book together. She lived in New York City and I lived at the time in New Jersey. A genuine New Jersey housewife. My husband loved the whole idea of the book, and was very supportive ,but never understood the forever process…a forever process. The book is about two unlikely women becoming best friends forever, and their romp through middle age with a bit of astrology, revenge, and told secrets. My co-author said Thelma and Louise meet Wall Street and I added, but with a happier ending. These evolved women are not the type to go off a cliff, especially in a convertible.I have many creative souls on Twitter and we share in the process of trying to get our projects acknowledged. We sent out the manuscript to several, not many agents and they all said the same thing. Good writing, would make a good movie, and good plot…..but I guess not good enough to publish. True, the publishing business is not great right now and self publishing seems to be the way many writers are going. We want the old fashion way, and hope someday to get an agent who believes in our book. Amazing that I just don’t get discouraged. Disappointed perhaps at times. I truly believe the right person hasn’t read the book. A movie because the women are in their 50’s would be a terrific opportunity for so many women actors. Magical thinking? I don’t think so, I believe in timing. I will keep you posted. Good luck to any creative souls reading this who also have dreams. Timing!!!!!
For Dog Lovers Only: Embarassing Moments
Taking Lucky, my Havanese canine grandson for a walk on Central Park West, he sniffs and greets many new friends. Most embarrassing to observe his friendliness with other dogs, male and female. During the sniff and greet, the humans just watch without saying too much. I mean what do you say in such an intimate moment. After a minute or two, I usually say “well Lucky, you said hi and now we must be going.”
We arrive home and I use wipes in all areas that need attention, including his paws, (after all, he is a NYC resident.)_Also wipe his mouth and nose, because I find it difficult to resume our relationship when I just witnessed him just being a dog……… but how can you resist giving and receiving a kiss from someone who loves you unconditionally? I certainly can’t!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re-Entry
When I visit family in Virginia or California, it takes me a while, as I call it to re-entry after three weeks away. I remember traveling with my husband on long flights, and even if we got home at 3am body time, I would do a load of wash. Never considered myself obsessive, just organized. I need to unpack and wake up to a settled place giving me peace of mind. I left California after a glorious three-week family fun time, and ended up on the red-eye. I was trying to get the best fare when I booked on Jet Blue, and after I made the reservation realized I would be flying all night. The price wasn’t worth the five hours of steering the plane. Felt I was productive writing in the dark because I didn’t want to disturb the two people next to me who fell asleep before the plane took off. Guess they realized I was taking care of the co-piloting and could rest. A zombie left the plane after landing and arrived back at my apartment at 6am. Actually without any little white pill help, I fell asleep at 8am until 1pm. For the first time, needless to say not able to wash clothes without a washing machine in my New York apartment, I just sort of unpacked the few things I packed and let hang out. Why I need to take so many products is beyond my comprehension. It has to do with more practicality than over packing, not wanting to make a drug store stop when I have everything I need to bring. Now, getting back to my normal way of life takes about three days of slowly putting everything back where it belongs. Go through mail, throwing most of it out. Travel things away, cosmetics and all the other stuff in their proper places, and hang the clothes back in the closet. Some people can leave suitcases and everything out for days. I am not one of them. I needed to devise a method to all this unpacking madness and not leave my apartment for two days without a moments guilt. It was easy. The weather is absolutely beautiful in New York with no humidity right now. Not for me it isn’t. I put the shades down and said there is no way I can go out in this blizzard. The snow is drifting and the ice on the sidewalks dangerous. So here I am, able to stay in my apartment doing my re-entry my way. I have to go out tomorrow and know for sure this imaginary blizzard will melt in 84 degree temperature. Today it is 82. Re-entry almost complete, except for a pile of magazines I need to read. Another summer blizzard may be in the forecast for next week.
Happy Story
My friend Vivian called me from Florida with a lovely story.
She was at the beauty salon, and a woman was paying her bill and chatting with the receptionist. My friend overheard the woman say that her birthday was 7/11, to which Vivian responded by saying “that’s my birthday too.” The woman quickly responded, “I’m going to be 96 and my husband is 101’……..and with that said, she left the salon, keys in hand, went into her car and drove off.
I love this story!!!!
URA Warrior and Bershan Shaw
I have several posts including Self Love on this blog. I write under the name paula paulette and will have a new one about how to age in a most graceful way, providing of course you are fortunate enough to have your health. I recently met a man at a graduation party. He just turned 60. He has a beautiful lovely wife and children. I was in a state of shock when he told me he doesn’t think he will live a long life and wants to die at 75. Being older than that, to say I was upset was putting it mildly. Of course he is in the finance business, and me being of a creative mind, we could have been from different planets. He was on Lipitor and said he was going off soon. I asked him if he had diabetes would he go off insulin? He seemed to understand that. Seems a healthy man is already doing his countdown, or in golf terms, on the back nine. I prefer the woman in the latest O The Oprah Magazine, who is 100 and still teaching and looking wonderful. Having wisdom to share. Instead of fearing aging, why not embrace. The Golden Years may not be all that golden, but at least give them a try. The alternative is not so great!
Definitely A New York Moment
Walking on Madison and 88th Street with my friend Ronnie, what are the chances she would bring up the recent firing of Jill Abramson, who was formerly the executive editor of the New York Times?……and who turned around seconds later and said, “I heard my name mentioned”…..and who was it? Jill Abramson. I immediately said this could be a Metropolitan Diary thing (New York Observations) and she said “do it.” She saw her bus and rushed away. A most memorable New York moment……………….p.s. Ronnie and I both sent our versions to Metropolitan Diary, New York Times and surprise surprise…we never heard from them.
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Golden Girls? We’re Here!
What a fun great show that was. With all the reality shows, I wrote to Andy Cohen at Bravo and wanted to know why there wasn’t one show with women over 60? It could address so many issues and be humorous and poignant. Are the demographics only directed at those way under 60? I wrote to Linda Wells of Allure magazine over 15 years ago and asked why everything stops at 40…Now they go to 50. We really don’t drop off the earth and all the 20 somethings are going hopefully to be over 60, someday. I have actually known women over 70 who still shop, still wear cosmetics, eat, drink, walk, do yoga, involved with nutrition, and the list goes on. They even want sex or shall I say delicately, they want someone normal to be in their lives and make love. Oh, I almost forgot, they go to…
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What a fun great show that was. With all the reality shows, I wrote to Andy Cohen at Bravo and wanted to know why there wasn’t one show with women over 60? It could address so many issues and be humorous and poignant. Are the demographics only directed at those way under 60? I wrote to Linda Wells of Allure magazine over 15 years ago and asked why everything stops at 40…Now they go to 50. We really don’t drop off the earth and all the 20 somethings are going hopefully to be over 60, someday. I have actually known women over 70 who still shop, still wear cosmetics, eat, drink, walk, do yoga, involved with nutrition, and the list goes on. They even want sex or shall I say delicately, they want someone normal to be in their lives and make love. Oh, I almost forgot, they go to theater, films, jazz clubs, comedy clubs, opera, and any other creative venue. you see them all over the place. You see them having dinner together and sharing everything. Well, not everything. So Linda Wells liked my idea of having older women give their secrets, and said she would pass on to the another editor. Never heard back. Pitched an idea to Andy Cohen about a show called No Sex In The City. Never heard from him either. Then I took a humorous approach and called the Bachelorette Show and suggested they have an older woman. No, not me…too ridiculous to think of finding love on television, but I certainly would watch. More and more baby boomers are getting up there in age. We can name stars that are still working and looking terrific in the 60-90 range. My grandchildren don’t think of me as an old lady, but guess Andy Cohen does. . Isn’t there anyone out there who thinks a woman can be a certain age and still BE!!!!
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