mother nature is a man and other observations..

Complaining not… just an observation. “Women of a certain age” or women of all ages might relate to this subject. Is being a single woman in New York City, about the worst place to actually find your first, or second or any soul mate? Of course, I am only addressing the women who are interested in finding one. I have met and talked with many, who have either given up due to terrible experiences, or no experiences. Not sure which one is worse. I was one of the lucky ones. I know what is to be loved and in love. Told I had to ” get out there,” I did, and even wrote a blog about the “getting out there” process. Meeting strangers on-line, even though I was skeptical might work, so I gave it more than a passing thought. I went on all of them to no avail. Not even a second date, but kept going on after being reinforced by hearing about one or two successful stories. I also blogged about some of those experiences. Not exactly terrific….A lesson learned though, and a good one for me, is never go on again….and even on a dark rainy night, after a glass and maybe another half of wine, feeling a bit sad and lonely, I would pass the computer and say to myself, don’t you dare. A little behavior modification is good, and I immediately went to the place in my memory, where I put some of the dating experiences …that place allowed me to walk right by the computer to the kitchen, where I made a bag of no oil, no salt, no taste popcorn…the secret is putting some olive oil on the hot popcorn, and that makes it all worthwhile to eat the entire bag. So maybe, not be so selective, and go for nice, instead of the exciting and unrealistic, love at first sight. Leave the chemistry aspect aside. Not sure about that form of settling. Once you’ve had a soul mate, you know the connection There has to be other old soul out there waiting for the right what? Time, place, universe connection? All luck? Right time right place? Which is it? The only thing I’m really sure about? NYC for a single woman can be rough terrain. So what to do? Stop looking, and experience all the glory of the city. The sights, smells, lights, parks, people greeting each other, saying thank you to bus drivers, doormen, all service people. Showing kindness, taking in the beauty of your surroundings, and when you least expect it, the illusive ” he” will come into your life. Sounds good, and asking me if I believe my own words. Well, on a Friday, I might be in some exceptional fantasy mood, and know for sure it will. Ask me a few days later, maybe not so sure..Now we shall just have to see…Pure luck? Fantasy believer? It will happen when it’s right? When it’s meant to be? Oh well, the fun will be in the wait and see. The waiting game is better than the looking part…patience…enjoy your life and all the people in it. The energy of the city and all it has to offer. If the ” he” comes into your life, how wonderful, and if not, well, you have experienced the joy of romantic love and just remember to remember. Remembering is so much better than looking, because it was real. The waiting is real too. Awake and aware and who knows? Lucky? Why not!

Well, I re read my post at least three times and still a “senior moment.”. The magnificent Ellen Burstyn, I forgot to mention is 80. A perfect example of 80 is the new 50. She is a woman to be admired and probably proud to be 80.

I read a tweet that resonated with me in a huge way. Age is just a number, not a limitation….and it was tweeted by a 17-year-old boy. Women of a “certain age” seem to find it difficult to get acting roles. So, I decided to do a little research , and check on the ages of some working actresses, and couldn’t leave out Joy. I was blown away Sunday evening, when Ellen Burstyn accepted her Emmy for Political Animals. She looked gorgeous, and in her short speech, she especially thanked the writer Greg Berlanti who wrote a part “for a woman over 65 who still had a lot of juice.” Additional “juice” to share. Blythe Danner..70.. Dame Helen Mirren..68..Cher..67.. Diane Keaton..67..Carol Channing..91..Betty White..92..Angela Lansbury..88..Cloris Leachman..87.. Debbie Reynolds..81.. Maggie Smith..79..Chita Rivera..80..Tina Turner..73.. Carol Burnett..80..Joy Beher..70..Dame Judy Dench..78..Shirley MacLaine..79..Vanessa Redgrave..76.. Jane Fonda..76..Barbra Streisand..71..Cecily Tyson..79..This is a partial list, and I know left out so many, but the point wasn’t to just make a list. These women are fantastic role models. proving that age is just a number, and in no way, a limitation. Their creative juices runneth over, and may they continue for years to come. The message applies to all women. Not just a silent list, but a statement loud and clear. As Chelsea Handler shouts out, “You go girl.”

At my age, with some interesting experiences, I feel I can speak with honestly on this subject.I have been involved in women’s issues for over 50 years, and speaking to hundreds of women, I feel I speak for them as well. So, size does matter. Let’s start with the eyes…large enough to really see you in all your glory…nose…large enough to take in your lovely scent and the aroma of you…lips…large enough to know how to kiss over ten seconds…over and over again…over and over again…ears to hear the music ..Frank Ocean’s Channel Orange for a start, would be mood evoking…arms and this is important…large enough to give a really good hug, that keeps giving..one that you really feel…and keep feeling even after…size of a man’s patience to wait for you…and two very important sizes? The size of a man’s heart to know what your heart needs to know and feel, and the size of a man’s soul that overflows enough to fill yours. So yeah guys, size really does matter. ………………..I also think it should be compulsory for every freshman boy to see Coming Home with Jon Voight and Jane Fonda.