Happy State of Mind?
A happy state of mind comes and goes ; a grateful feeling lasts forever. pm
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Business Class/Compromised Class
I rarely fly business class, my traveling to California is on Jetblue. Taking the train to Richmond Virginia, I usually go business, with more leg room and less aromas. The senior upgrade not costing that much more. When I boarded, the train was half full, with many empty seats. I sat by the window, and spread out my things on the aisle seat with my luggage directly in front. My suitcase is quite heavy. The conductor would have been more than happy to put up on the rack….but I know too well, the feeling of desertion, looking around for someone to take down at my destination. So there I was, all comfy. cozy, and settled in for the six hour ride. Four hours later, a rather unsmiling, unpleasant woman asked to sit in the aisle seat, and would I move my things! I, of course, immediately started to move everything, and thought it unnecessary for her to ask me to move all, when she had to notice I was doing just that, before she asked. Now, everything was moved to my side, with my luggage directly in front of my paid for extra leg room. She had absolutely no reaction to my glancing at all the empty seats surrounding us, including the aisle directly across from mine. I reluctantly thought of a little plan, my comfort level winning over my reluctance. I cough at times, due to allergies, but I gave an Oscar winning performance in the coughing, blowing my nose category. A sneeze wasn’t forthcoming, but the acting out cold symptoms won. The unpleasant germaphobe, left for parts unknown within a few minutes without a word. I immediately moved back to my aisle, shoving all my stuff back to the window seat and floor. Less than five minutes later, a very large woman fell right in my lap, grazing my ear. Fortunately, she wasn’t hurt, nor was I…except perhaps a slightly bruised karma for the impromptu performance I gave. The fallen woman got up with a sweet smile and lovely apology, I wanted to tell her that I would rather have her fall on me, than an unpleasant one sit next to me. The next two hours flew by without any problems.
Just a thought….Don’t you think?
If you can hug, you can love. How does romantic love exist without knowing how to hug and kiss? A really great hug is a gift from the universe. Something so simple,yet so many have no clue how. I said before, kissing should be considered an art form. Emotional understanding should lead to physical joy. For many couples romantic love leaves too soon, and if not nourished, quickly disappears. Why is the courtship for so many a “state of craze,” that too soon fades. Such an easy fix for a one way track, instead of two trains going in totally different directions. Stuck in negative thought is somewhat like being in emotional quicksand. My husband and I almost made it to 50 years, and I loved when he told me I was never boring and kept our romance alive. Can be as simple as eating by a tiny votive candle and one small flower. It doesn’t get any better…well maybe when your grandchildren tell you, you’re a “cool GaMa.”
xoxoxoxo
Just a thought today. I have just two male “friends”, and not the Hollywood couple thing, when referring to a lover as a friend. These are in the true sense of the word platonic friends. When we email, I usually sign off Cheers!….seems innocent enough. One man I know for over 50 years. He was the husband of one of my dearest friends who died. He always signs off Love, so I thought, I better do the same or it sounds a bit cold…a rather new friend I met 8 years ago, but really have only had contact for almost a year, signs off xo…Now, that is a quandary. Remember the olden days when we wrote letters? I don’t ever remember doing the xo thing. It was Sincerely yours, Cordially, or as I used to do, With affection or Affectionately. Please know that none of this is earth shattering, just an observation. I see hidden meanings in words at times, when they don’t exist, except in my mind. I very often call people love, and mean it….but the xo thing?…would a man sign off kisses and hugs if he had to write out the xo…I doubt it. I received an email last night with the xo and for some reason I wrote back and just put x…realized it was a mistake, because if I was just going to put one, I think the o less intimate. The things we do, not necessarily to complicate, just a bit of humor…that is all this is about!!!!
Love and Marriage
The wonderful almost state of craze feeling, that arrives at the same time as falling in love is wonderful, and seems so effortless. Speaking with many women over the years, why the ease with the falling aspect, but staying in love, for so many, so difficult? Nourishing gardens flourish, as would marriages given some work. Sometimes a little separation can bring couples back, stronger than ever and more wonderful than one would imagine. Something is wrong, when one out of two marriages ends in divorce. I am not putting the blame on one or the other. Marriage works as a team effort and the working is not as difficult as divorce. I have spoken to many women who were divorced and regretted their decisions, and others who went on to a second marriage that was beautiful. No one should be forced to stay in a prison of sorts, but just wondering how many marriages would be saved if both had even a small positive emotion left for one another…Just a thought…I was married almost 50 years and 35 were sheer perfection and joy. When my husband died, part of me died because the life we shared was gone. But, when you have soul connected love, the one loved is never far away spiritually. I feel his energy and spirit every day and that is a great source of comfort.
Life
It’s a good idea, if possible, to live the life you love, and love the life you lead!
Ever notice in New York and Elsewhere
Have you ever observed the type of person that litters? In the city, it seems the majority of people say thank you to the bus driver, and so easy to do….and what about the person at the post office or checker that seems so grouchy, if you just say something kind, their attitude changes immediately, the same with all service people. My savvy New York granddaughter has never not said thank you to the doormen.
Waiting for a friend in my lobby, and watching people coming in and out of my building, most said thank you. It’s important for me to believe, most are capable of goodness.
Not that I care, but…………………………
An observation: I think I’m the oldest or one of the oldest on Twitter…Just saying!!!!!!!!!!!
Scent Memories
I am always looking for the elusive wonderful perfect scent. I remember fondly Faberge Straw Hat, long since discontinued. Lovely, lilting, lasting scents bring back many memories of the hunt. My husband and I were at the theatre over 30 years ago, and a woman walked by. I stood in back of her taking the scent in. I had to find out what it was. The line was moving, and needed to make my move, so quietly I asked “if I may, what is the perfume you are wearing.” She turned around and very sweetly said, Tuberose by Mary Chess and it’s so inexpensive. A large bottle for $7.50″..Of course it became my favorite until that too was discontinued….and the elegant beautiful woman who gave me the information……Gloria Vanderbilt.
FYI
Lack of judgement comes from strong emotions: anger, fear, romantic love, and intoxication.
mother nature is a man and other observations.. 
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